Category Archives: determination

Losing the Taste for Sweet

I would have said at one time that it was impossible I would lose my taste for sweets, but to my surprise, after the last few years of very low carb eating, my taste for sweet has vastly diminished. Last night I was out to dinner with friends, I didn’t give the bread basket a second thought, then a dessert sampler was ordered for the table by one of my friends. I would have declined dessert if we had ordered individually. But, my friends are not on my low sugar-starch diet, and I don’t make a big deal when out with others.

So this big dessert platter with four desserts was put in the middle of the table. At one time I would have dived in and had my fair share, but instead I nabbed the strawberry settled on some whipped cream, had one tiny bite each of two of the desserts, an apple tart and a sticky pudding, and had no desire for more, indeed it was a ‘ho-hum’ experience. I just had no desire for any more. At the time I was not thinking much about it, but when I got home I realized what a different experience I just had from the years when I had to have my very own dessert in order to enjoy the meal.

So, take heart if you are still struggling with avoiding sweets. By maintaining good habits at home–no sweets live here–and avoiding most situations that are personal triggers, like convenience stores were for me, then given enough time, months to a couple years, we do gradually lose our super-sweetened palates and find pleasure in much healthier options. I make pumpkin custards, almond flour cup cakes, mousses, etc.,  sweetened only with a little bit of liquid stevia, and enjoy such treats as much or more than the old heavy sugar desserts.

All the negative issues with weight, inflammation in the cells, brain fog, and other such bad reactions to sugars-starches-artificial sweeteners, are enough to keep me on the path of good health which for me is anti-sugar.

Even when you fall off the wagon, and we all have, in the early days especially, take heart–it will get easier.

When you no longer feel deprived, you no longer want what is bad for you. To get to that point requires both habit changes and a change of mindset, but the good news is that it can be done.

Yours in learning,

Nan aka Sugarbaby

Ye Olde Holidays-Again

We have officially entered the high holiday season in the U.S.A, and the west in general.; with Halloween, Thanksgiving Day, Hanukkah, Christmas, Kwanzaa, and New Year’s Day. Holidays mean food, presents, food, alcohol, food, discomfort, food, resolutions; or this has been the pattern in my past. Nowadays I am more into a healthy defensive mode, and think about foods I can make that will allow my spouse and I to join in the general celebrations, while we keep in mind that there are pitfalls lining the holiday pathway. I know my concerns, and I suspect you know yours. There is one particular brand of fruit cake I always had at Christmas, though I doubt now I would really like it all that much, especially since one slice has more carbs than I eat in a month now–and I never ate just one slice.

I have been making some things we like a lot getting ready for our upcoming Thanksgiving. I made a sugar-free cranberry sauce, and a cranberry relish; these freeze well, and this is the rare time in the year that I can find organic cranberries, so it’s stock up time.  I have made and bought some very low carb bread which will be part of a stuffing and a bread pudding, both helping to keep to my new ketogenic diet.  Turkey is a must, since I love it fresh roasted and in all the many ways it can be used as left overs, plus those bones make up several pints of healthy bone broth.  Celery, turnip, kohlrabi, onion, get roasted and used in small amounts, but they keep well.

For dessert I have a wonderful pumpkin chiffon pie recipe I make with no sugar, only a few stevia drops, and a chocolate mousse, my maple walnut butter treats, all with the same stevia treatment; along with flax crackers and a plethora of incredible cheeses for starters. So we are set to have a good time. I find people enjoy what we bring to the gatherings as much as the SAD foods, and it takes us out of the idea that we are deprived, since clearly we are not with this bit of planning.

Festivals and celebrations are inextricably linked with food, but food should not dominate our lives; still, for those of us who are sugaraholics, there must be attention paid to the holiday and other celebration pitfalls. We have no need at all, or excuse, to give in to the treats if we have our own safe and delicious alternatives.

Yours in celebration,

Nan aka Sugarbaby

Traveling and Other Sugar Pitfalls

Traveling and Avoiding Sugar Pitfalls

Sometimes I could travel and do fine, but other times I would cave and then slide into a binge. Struggling to stay free of binges I examined what places I was most vulnerable, and in those places, what foods tended to be the the ones that started the ball rolling.

Here is an interesting fact about human behavior: we are creatures of habit. We tend to repeat the same behaviors which is why it can be hard to break bad or negatives patterns. But the good thing about this slavish trait is that we can use that knowledge about ourselves to break through the negative.

A couple years ago I read a book on habits by Charles Duhigg, called The Power of Habit, in which he layouts out the powerful nature of habits, why that is good, and why it is a challenge for us to change habits. The short version is there are three basic parts to a habit: 1) a stimulus or cue, 2) to which we respond, 3)to produce the reward or goal. The key to changing a habit is not denial or will power, but taking advantage of the first and third elements, changing only the response. So, if every evening you have an alcoholic drink (response) while watching television (the stimulus), which is relaxing( the reward);  you replace the alcoholic drink with another rewarding drink, perhaps a cup of herbal tea you enjoy. Soon the idea for the drink is for the tea, not the booze.

I realized that when I visited a family member’s house where I tended to give in to sweets, the most usual or initial food I was tripped up on was chocolate. Next time I visited I stopped at a market before going to the house and bought some of my favorite cheese and cold cuts. Now I had something to respond to the cue.

I further realized that chocolate was almost always what tripped me up because I can do some chocolate at home, very dark 85% chocolate to which I add some sliced almonds or coconut, and don’t over eat. Away from home the chocolate had a lot of sugar, and that I cannot or will ever be equipped to handle.

Now it will probably take more than one time to make the shift, but if you are determined, you can do it.

Yours in changing unhealthy habits,

Nan aka Sugarbaby

The Kraken aka Sugar Beast

The deep brain desire for sugar does not ever entirely go away, though it can be, as it were, caged by denial of sugar-starch-artificial sweeteners. I am a writer who likes analogy, to have concrete mental images of those more abstract issues. For me, the Clash of the Titans movie, the first one I saw in 1981, had the beast, the Kraken, caged deep in the ocean by Poseidon who controlled it.  This was very powerful imagery;  as indeed all the Greek mythological gods and creatures were meant to  be.

As I struggled with a growing problem of cravings for carbohydrates, those urges/cravings were to me like the Kraken; if I could keep the beast caged, then I would be fine. Admittedly, it took me a while to figure out how to permanently lock the beast deep in my limbic brain. For me that is complete abstinence from modern sugars-starches, and all artificial sweeteners save a small amount of stevia.

Like the mythological Kraken, this is no beast to toy with; either it is caged, or it is running rampant over the landscape of my brain. For me it is extremely destructive on several levels, not the least of which is weight gain. Indeed, many people suffer from mental health issues that seem to miraculously go away once they go on a ketogenic or  very low carbohydrate paleo-type food plan.

So, if you are  also in the throes of the Kraken, be assured you, too, can cage the beast; but, beware, open the cage a little and it will come roaring to the surface once again, more powerful than ever.

Yours in being in control,

Nan aka Sugarbaby

Never Give Up

Let’s remember what sugar is. Sugar is not just the white granulated stuff in the sugar bowl, but it comes in many forms like corn syrup that is put into virtually all foods not purely raw vegetables; it is even injected into meats, especially deli meats. Sugar is also, as far as your body is concerned, anything made with grain, anything that has a carb count, such as the so-called starchy vegetables and fruits–squash, corn, bananas are the highest. So you might be eating what looks like a pretty good diet but still be getting more sugar than your body can handle.  To further make a mockery of our efforts, if one is already over weight, even eating very low carb, if you eat too much protein your liver can convert it to sugars which then will get stored as fat.

Happily, most people who eliminate the basic sugars will see good results in health and in weight loss, but there are some of us who will have to bird dog those sugars and get nearly all of them out of our diets if we want to lose excess fat. I happen to be one of those people, and recently decided to go on a ketogenic diet, for me less than 20 carbs per day, and I am glad to report I am once more losing the stubborn weight.  I also exercise, especially walking, several times a week, and this combination is working for me.

I don’t claim many virtues, but one I hang on to is I have determination, I don’t give up on things that matter to me; I just keep on trying expecting I will find an answer eventually.

If you are interested in the keto diet check out these sites I think are best for more information:

http://www.nutritionandmetabolism.com/content/1/1/2

http://aaron.emascc.com/diet/ebooks/Lyle_McDonald_-_The_Ketogenic_Diet.pdf

http://www.ketogenic-diet-resource.com/best-weight-loss-program.html

Bonus: Watch this great time lapse of girl who used keto diet to lose 88 pounds in a year:

http://www.ksl.com/?nid=1010&sid=26734370

Yours in never giving up,

Nan aka Sugarbaby

Self-Discipline: Myths and Merits

Sugar is a problem. Perhaps the biggest problem is that people may not have any problem limiting sugar for years, but once it does become a visible undeniable problem too much damage has been done. Sugar is doing damage internally all along; cells have problems with not letting go fat from insulin resistance among many other things. The outward and visible problem is gaining weight, the mental problems of bingeing, constant cravings, are not psychological weakness but our bodies’ overly stressed response to too much sugar-starch-artificial sweeteners.

The primary myth about sugar is that just a little won’t hurt since weight is about calories-in, calories-out;  the secondary myth is that people just need to buck up and exercise restraint, that becoming overweight is a sign of not having self-discipline or being self-indulgent.

The reason it’s so hard to be disciplined is that the “old brain” or limbic brain– that which sits beneath our larger neo-cortical mass which does advanced things like thinking–has one goal only when it comes to food, which is to eat any and all carbs and fat in order not to starve the next period of famine (inevitable in prehistory). That “old” brain is not clued in to modernity, HFCS, high calorie density in every food, etc.  As long as we eat a diet high in refined sugars/starch the majority of us will eventually find ourselves plagued by carb cravings. Cravings are that old brain demanding we eat, an insulin driven cycle that’s hard to break free from as long as we eat sugars. Add insulin resistance into the mix, and you will find someone gaining weight, miserable, trying desperately most of the time to be disciplined, but succumbing to binges all too often.

For those who find ourselves in that awful place the best and probably only chance to get free of those cravings, binges, misery is to rid our diets of all refined sugars/starches, and keep any carbohydrates even from fruits and vegetables strictly controlled. That takes discipline. Discipline is ultimately a great friend.

Once we see the path to free ourselves of the addictive properties of sugars-starch-artificial sweets, then for some period of time we will have to exercise self-discipline to establish good eating habits often lost for several years.

For most of my young life I ate three meals a day rarely snacked, then as age, menopause, lack of sleep, a high stress career all began to take their toll, my cravings steadily increased; I ate ever more carbs, mostly the so-called good carbs, but found myself beginning to have binges on ice cream, sweet rolls, and such high cal-carb-fat foods. I became miserable, for how could I be in this position when I had always been very good at accomplishing what I wanted to do with my life. No wonder so many people who get fat are also in some state of depression (which is also a direct product of too much sugar).

I refused to give up or in, and read and tried dozens of different plans until I stumbled across Atkins low carb plan, which helped a lot, but not quite enough, for Atkins unwittingly allowed for the use of sugar substitutes, aka artificial sweeteners. Only a few years later did I learn that these artificial sweets were also creating strong cravings for me. Further, I had walked four miles a day for years, so lack of exercise was not my problem, indeed it was contributing to the problem. How could I be doing everything 90% right and getting 100% bad results?  Gary Taubes book, Good Calories, Bad Calories was a revelation! Finally it all made sense. But after ten years of eating too much carbohydrate, my brain was not happy to give them up, so now was when the need for self-discipline became vitally important.

My spouse once said that I had hit the “perfect storm” of conditions to get overweight. He could see that I was working hard to keep my weight in control, and had a lot of sympathy, for which I’m very grateful, for I know people who don’t have that support. So in a way it became necessary for me to make sure I was sailing in calm waters. Happily the hormone problems are past, back surgery very successful, and so I could implement the right things like being faithful to recording my food intake, keeping my carbs around 20g per day, increasing fats, eating mostly grass-fed and organic, getting enough but not too much exercise, and meditating, which has been a long time practice through writing and walking.  The biggest areas of discipline came around avoiding artificial sweeteners, and not eating between meals. I still catch myself opening the refrigerator and thinking “what’s to eat?” then reminding myself that I don’t eat between meals.

Changing our eating habits as well as the foods we eat can lead us to good health and leaner, fitter bodies, but all of us have to exercise some level of self-discipline. Just eating low carb won’t be enough to lose weight if you are eating too much food and your body doesn’t have to give up the stored fat.  Most of us, especially if not young, will have to do some restricting of how much and when we eat to get success. That said, it can be done, which was the best news I’ve had in years.

Yours in determinations,

Nan aka Sugarbaby