Patience is Important if not a Virtue

We always want to fix our issues now, even though the problems may have taken years to develop. Patience is hard for western people who are driven to achieve, to succeed, to perform, to make it in whatever way we think is important. Patience is not our strong suite; excepting those in the minority who do have patience. We often don’t have the ability to try to new things, to stick with it,  to wait and see how they work. So it goes with changing habits, foods, and all behaviors. Part of us doesn’t really want to change, another part does. It is something of a contest to see which part will win.

I have gotten more patience with age, but it is not easy to wait, even if the time is going to pass regardless; there is that part of us that wants the reward now.  We would likely all be doing great if we got the rewards first, then just had to manage the success. (I know this would not be true in all cases.) Part of the work of change is just waiting for time to pass.

My mother used to tell me I was “wishing my life away”; for, in summers particularly, I would be whining about not getting to do this or that, and would be anxious for time to pass since I lived out in the country away from friends and the fun things that were part of the school year.  I think many of us never quit wishing our lives away.

Now when you stop sugars-starch-artificial sweeteners, there is reward immediately in terms of health, but we have to stick with it for several months before it becomes natural, and we stop thinking longingly about those treat-type foods we gave up.

There are those few lucky souls who don’t struggle as much as most of us, and that’s good for them, but the majority will need to develop patience. We know that the rewards of avoiding these foods that have made us ill, over weight, addicted, are worthwhile, so if we have faith in the process, we too will become one of that lucky bunch who just don’t care that much about sweets. That’s be a reward truly worth the wait.

Yours in patience,

Nan aka Sugarbaby

After Accepting Sugar is a Problem

Even when you know that sugar-starch-artificial sweeteners are a problem, there are other issues to deal with. I went through the phase of trying to find low carb or paleo substitutes for the sweets and breads, and kept stalling in my weight loss. I finally realized that there are different problems with different levels of magnitude.

Food (meaning the SAD foods, the frankenfoods, the faux foods ) is a problem, we know we have to eliminate the foods we can’t control. After that there is the weight problem.

If you have a weight problem, which sadly most of us sugaraholics do, diets don’t work unless we see that we are changing to a new and healthy permanent way of eating; that a dessert now and then (preferably of our own making) is probably okay, but to not let the perfect be the enemy of the good. That eating only at table, and not with other distractions is very important, and a bit of exercise makes us feel a lot better as we allow nature to do its work. I heard a South American doctor point out that we don’t have to weigh and measure water, we will drink enough water even if that enough is not what the government or some diet books says is enough. If we stick to healthy choices, our bodies will tell us when we have had enough.

So what is left is the eating problem. If we are eating from boredom, bad habits like in front of the television, or late night grazing, these have very little to do with hunger if we are eating a at least a couple decent meals every day. Eating becomes its own activity, to fill up time, to give us comfort, to procrastinate, to assuage boredom, sadness, loneliness, fear, or any other emotion.  If we are eating aside from meals, we have an eating problem.

Of course, there may be some occasional exceptions, but I have decided I don’t want any exceptions if at all possible. Eating doesn’t fix problems in life, eating that’s not health driven only adds to life’s problems.

So consider whether your sugaraholic days have created the concomitant problem of using eating for the wrong reasons.  My guess is that people who seem to give up the bad foods and drop all their weight fairly quickly didn’t have the eating problem.

Somehow, seeing that eating aside from planned meals is the main problem is really making a difference for me.  The best analogy I can think of is constantly washing if you are already clean; we call that an obsessive compulsive behavior. I think eating that doesn’t have anything to do with hunger is no different.

I know I’m feeling my clothes getting looser, and feeling much happier about not constantly logging food, getting on the scale, and being so diet focused. Eating need not control our lives, and we can enjoy the good foods we have learned to eat, enjoy good health, and be free of the “diet” mentality.

Yours in discovery,

Nan aka Sugarbaby

Lack of Sleep Makes You Crave Junk

I learned this through hard experience of several years very poor sleep. This article sums up some research that addresses why we are vulnerable when fatigued.

A Sugar Addict’s E-book

This is a good resource for sugaraholics: 

http://authoritynutrition.com/viciouseating.pdf

Sugar is Dangerous

Yet another article showing study reaults that make clear sugar is dangerous.

http://digitaljournal.com/article/344595

History of Sugar

The latest issue of National Geographic magazine has a great article on the history of sugar, and the current problems of obesity and health from our massive consumption.

http://ngm.nationalgeographic.com/2013/08/sugar/cohen-text

Emotions and Carbs

We have been having a very wet spring and summer in my part of the world, which makes me, and others I know, get a bit grumpy and antsy with the desire to be out and about; especially when you want to be at the YMCA pool as my grandchildren do.

It is no accident that when we feel low, stressed, unhappy, angry, and all such negative emotions, our bodies–the brain specifically–crave carbohydrate foods–sugar, starch, usually  bound together with loads of fat (not always the good fats).

As mentioned before, we are operating from an ancient evolutionary system. In those ancient days our stressors were most likely to be dangerous critters, or famine;  either way food was apt to be the most comforting and necessary adjunct to life. Now we have such concentrated calories that many of us (read older and/or sedentary) could easily live off one serving per day of some foods.

While it won’t always keep us from indulging in foods we have problems with, the knowledge of what is driving the cravings can help in avoiding the worst of the worst.

I was on vacation in Washington, DC this past Independence Day week with grandchildren, and it was crowded, hot, and tempers got short when we couldn’t find the right bus/subway stop and walked a lot more in the heat than we are accustomed. Not surprisingly, there were a few meals where I deliberately made a choice to indulge in something like a light beer, or chocolate ice cream, accounting it as part of my 10% free eating.

Being in charge, rather than eating mindlessly is always the best option. When we eat purposefully, we eat a serving; when we eat mindlessly or with guilt, we eat wildly and far too much, such as sneak-eating a whole bag of sweets.

My most recent goal is to eat only when truly hungry, and to eat with intention anything I do eat. I am still working on this, but it seems to me the best way to function.

Yours in good and bad times,

Nan aka Sugarbaby

Sugar/Food Addiction: Is it real?

Came across yet another study that lends credence to the the addictive quality in highly processed sugars/starches:  http://www.counselheal.com/articles/5886/20130627/food-addiction-real-problem.htm

Diets Can Cause Obesessive Food Thoughts

There are several books on the market from Bob Schwartz, Rob Stevens, Josie Spinnardi (some good youtube videos: http://www.josiespinardi.com/), and more, that talk about the dangers of dieting, mainly food restriction. Several studies have shown that people eat more when they go on calorie restricted diets, and may have long term challenges in getting away from thinking about food all the time.

I know I was stuck in a place for several years where it seemed I was constantly thinking about food. A mentally unhealthy place to be. While it is important to have a good basic paleo or HFLC general plan, or whatever works for you,  for many people, the non-perfectionists of us, can begin to be overly concerned with food, and soon lose the connection between food and hunger, so that food becomes a tool to assuage emotional issues. 

Even on the best of plans–paleo is big for me–it is possible to eat too much for the wrong reasons. What I learned from reading about hunger-driven eating, or intuitive eating, is that it is important to only eat when one is truly hungry, and not because of false craving-driven ideas about a need for food. I spent a few days getting back in touch with eating only when I really felt that twang in the upper solar plexus that is one of the main signals for true hunger, and found not too surprisingly that as someone with a pretty slow metabolism I only was hungry once in the day, around 6-7pm. Letting hunger be my guide also improved my appreciation for my food, and everything tastes much better when seasoned by hunger, as the French say.

There is a huge sense of freedom when you begin to practice only eating when hungry, and not by the clock, or by the promptings of television ads, or the smells from the food court in the mall. Also, it’s important to divorce food from any other activities like reading or watching television, since that leads to considerable mindless eating. 

Yours in the effort towards good health,

Nan aka Sugarbaby

Is Sugar Toxic?

A great post from Dr. Peter Attia (A-tee-ah) on the topic of sugar toxicity. For me there is no question that I have a toxic reaction to sugar; it makes me feel awful, and if that doesn’t indicate toxicity, I can’t imagine what would. Dr. Attia is working with Gary Taubes on getting more science behind the problems of modern carbohydrates in our diets.

Enjoy, but be prepared to read in small doses:

http://eatingacademy.com/nutrition/is-sugar-toxic

Yours in learning,

Nan aka Sugarbaby